Becoming a Gay Adult

Oh thanks be to whoever in wisdom put pause in these darkest days of the year (in the north anyway.) Hopefully you've had time to note the things that went well this year and where you might want to put some attention for 2013. While you're with dear family and friends, take some time to share what's most important to you. Celebrate the wins with them, and share what your dreams are for the year ahead. It is the most intimate thing you can do -- to share so vitally of your self. Wins inspire others. Dreams tickle the imagination of those around you. It's quite possible others share your dream and can support or just run alongside as they accomplish the same dreams with you. If you can find some quiet time alone, go inside. Find the longings and the hurt places and give them space and time to reveal to you some next right actions. Grieving is an action--that might be right today. A career is a direction. Holidays are a time to look thoughtfully at the map. We p...

So on a day when I could be raising awareness that there is still no cure for HIV, and yet there's hope it could be preventable if we practice safe behavior, I've got a microinequity stuck in my craw. Doing my NYC duty helping some tourist ladies take that picture in front of some ginormous cut down tree plopped in the perfect location for such things--after she interrupted my confab with Siri sharing a win with a mentor--and what does she say? 'Are you going to run away with my iPhone?' And can you imagine? I chalked it up to crazy, forgave her, said not a word, took the picture, smiled and just shook my head as I walked away. Happy Holidays, lady. Though I know it was a teachable moment, I really wanted to get on with my day.   It's hardly my job to educate everyone else. I have enough on my plate getting the next aha into my own psyche than to be disarmed everytime someone else's nuttiness floods my psyche. So this is one of the moments I chose to shake ...