Becoming a Gay Adult

Appropriately, I hit the wall today because I totally overdid it yesterday and I'm running on empty. Yesterday I went to the gym in the morning, met with my coach, informational interview on hotel industry (alumni connection), then over to Queens for coaching best practices sharing with another alumni, coach client on phone, then phone meeting with prospective group client, then home office to catch up on emails and blog/tweet, then back to the city for HR Networking event, then coach my client, then head home to send client homework for the week. Day started with gym at 5am and ended with emails to clients and new HR networking contacts at midnight. And who said jobhunting is a full-time job? Today I'm dialing back on the actions. I did however identify another target company and went on their site to create a jobhunt profile. Thankfully, I have all the names, address, phone numbers and contact info for past supervisors at my last few companies, other referrals (name, pho...

Whew! Today has already been an amazing day. Had MY career coaching session which helps me to see that I AM MY OWN WORST ENEMY when it comes to building my career. It's those endless doubts and worry that weigh be down like baggage. I call the thoughts that are unproductive, my Hypocrite. And I'm working on finding ways to counteract the statements, ideas that block productive action. Coming up with conscious tactics helps tremendously. Of course, I'm distractedly thinking about what I'll hear from my FAVORITE potential employer of the day. I got my "rejection" notices for two jobs I applied for, and they do sting. I second guess my talent and strengths and wonder if I should just go to the nearest grocery store, retailer or fast food restaurant and take a minimum wage job and plan to give up my apartment for an SRO...and I thank my Hypocrite voice and send him packing...for now. Step 7---Your Digital Footprint We all know we have an online presence. ...

Interview was big fun. I really liked the space, the people, the vibe. It's the whole package. I'm afraid to jinx it so no more on that. It's a rainy day in Gotham...and windy. I'm atwitter with excitement to hear... So, onward to Step 6--Resumes and Cover Letters May I just say one more thing about this morning's fab fun time? I'm letting go of the result. I did my best (good research, I breathed, I tried to be myself completely, and I had fun: lots of laughter). Now, move on. I'm no expert on these two documents. You might want to reach out to the endless pointers available online in places like the WSJ Careers section or the New York Times. There are sample resumes and letters which you can review. Basically though, your resume and cover letter are tools to tell a story. They will often be the way many hiring managers or recruiters will meet you. In writing them, most of us already have one. My two cents is that ,instead of just pulling up t...

So it's Sunday. However, want to get you thinking about Step 4--Identifying Real People who do what you want to do Try reaching out to your alma mater and see if they can run you a list of people who graduated from your school who do what you love. Bring it up at cocktail parties and other networking functions that you'd like to talk with people in this area. A good network base will serve you well in your jobhunt. Develop one and hone it with several conversations over the next few weeks. Generating this list is way more fun with a couple of your best buddies over brunch. and Step 5--the informational interview. It's a chance for you to connect with people who are doing what you think you'd love doing in organizations you think you'd love working in. The end goal of this step is to aim for about 15, 15-minute informational interviews. Set up a spreadsheet or table in Word that lists: organization name, a couple notes about the company, the name of persons you know...

So my personal update today, this glorious Saturday in New York (it's honestly never really more beautiful than this), is that I'm twittering with excitement about my life. I really feel like over the last 2 1/2 months, I've got such great clarity through some good introspection about what really makes me happy at work. It's so important a foundation for a life well lived. We spend, afterall, the majority of our hours AT WORK. More time there than with our family and loved ones (unless you work with them.) More time at work than at home or sleeping...sometimes combined! One woman I contacted for an informational interview told me she's been working 100 hours a week this week: that's SEVEN days a week...and even then that's 14.29 hours a day...THE MAJORITY OF HER LIFE. Blew me away. SO, if you're in pain at work, you're spending the majority (for some of us...and that includes those who are on constant call 24/7 on mobile devices) of your LIFE in pain...

So can you believe it? I have the treasured scheduled LIVE (vs phone screen) interview (which are now called "chats") on Monday. You know what that means: a day of company research. That's down the line in the process. I just know you'd want to do a happy dance by YOUR computer to celebrate with me. So far (since this all started November 4, 2009) it's been ONE phone screening and now one chat APPOINTMENT (which could get cancelled at any moment so I'm just saying it's scheduled.) Never count unhatched chickens. And, I'm going to officially start counting the number of positions I've applied to starting with the approximate FORTY. Final personal note for today: lots of people around me think I should get a job soon. This is to track the story and see just how "soon" soon is, and keep up my spirits. Seriously Julie and Julia inspired. OK, step 2: INDUSTRY/FUNCTION So now that you've written out your seven stories and you've seen a...

Hi, my name is Karl and I am a jobhunter. I've been using myself as a case study. And I really believe in the process now. The first step is a self-assessment. What am I passionate about? If I wrote seven stories about things I enjoyed doing in my lifetime so far: with friends and family, with co-workers, on my own, at school, etc. what patterns would I see. For me it has always been about helping people get to their inner truth and then expressing that in their thoughts, speech and actions. And since we spend the most time at work, I want for others to be happy at work, and help organizations I believe in succeed. I've always been deeply affected by those who are outsiders: so orientation programs that help newbies join groups are important to me. Corporations call that "onboarding." Etc. You get the idea. My stories also point to training (helping groups get better at something that's human relationship oriented like "managing up" or "delegating....

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