Becoming a Gay Adult

I think loving life is important. This is about having a love affair with your own life. One way to do that is through food that's healthy and fun. If you're a smoothie person, try this one I discovered today: Quarter of a Cucumber (with skin) Half an Apple (I used a Gala apple, with skin) A tablespoon of fresh squeezed Lemon 1/4 cup of cold water 1/2 cup cold crushed Pineapple Blend. So yummy! Makes you think of summer and lemonade, while filling you up with yummy calories and fiber! By the way, I've also put crushed mint leaves and cut up cucumbers in water to soak overnight: so delicious and refreshing. Eat and drink well, to live well.

Maybe we've become the little Dutch boy who tried to stay awake and plug every leaking hole in the dykes. And we all know what happened to the Dutch empire. The world has always been in chaos: the illusion of control is seductive and compelling. However, there is a difference from what we study in biology and geology and the "apparent" laws of nature which we sometimes believe govern (see Copernicus). There is something bigger and we have to honor that. What we learn in our dialogue witht he earth and its people, is the will of that which truly pushes the daises up from the earth, and moves the ocean, the tectonic plates and twinkles the stars. We must govern ourselves, look up and treat others with honestry, justice (as best we know it), and compassion. And so as I become more adult, I begin this process internally, which makes me a better citizen of the planet. And so I become more useful in my relationships. I'm moved to send thoughts to Egypt and the people ...

Undergraduate college years are powerful. Colgate University shaped my life and influences who I am at work. At each company, I've tried to find the other 'gaters. It makes for a sense of family beyond the days life seemed so much simpler and our loyalty to each other was unshakeable. When we played other schools in sports, we were all cheering for the same team. We had our internal rivalries, fraternities/sororities, special interest houses, race, class...a microcosm of society, and yet we worked hard and we played hard together and it's almost impossible to ignore someone else in New York City wearing Colgate gear. You almost have to say hello. It was wonderful spending a few days up there, connecting with the administration and the students. There is as the new president emphasizes, a sense of place there. It grounds us as we forge ahead in our varying careers. It serves as a shaping of thought and ideal center: the place we discovered...

So far so good on the staying still concept. I tell you, life moves fast. And my commitment this year is to breathe. Still.

there's a distinct anti-new year's day resolution movement. the idea is that resolutions set you up to fail, or that one should live a life that you're proud of all year long. that's nice. and i do that. however, there is something about setting goals and measuring success against them that ignites the human spirit in a different way than just letting life happen. there is a way to use resolutions to punish myself and do more harm than good. we all know that. there is also a middle place where we "aim for the moon" and land among the stars to paraphrase W. Clement Stone's oft-quoted thought. i like starry skies so i'll take the time today to reflect on the year past, assess what went well and identify what i'd like to do differently. then i can adjust my aims in 2011 and i even allow myself flexibility during the year. yes, this day is arbitrary, and in fact was never always the "first" day of the year. it does however serve in ma...