Becoming a Gay Adult

Some weeks are just challenging emotionally, psychologically and in the amount of things to do. Self-care becomes critical at those times: sleep, nutrition, connection with loved ones, especially my mentors, and exercise. I've paid some extra attention to those areas and it really helps me to stay grounded. I also am challenged to look deeper at what value I put on these areas outside the realm of emergency need. There is a lot of talk of death around me--and it makes me value my life so much more. I value that I woke up, that my body works well, that I have the emotional and psychological wherewithal to move forward into the day with energy and excitement, that I have a nice home, a wonderful partner (new as this is), and work that I love to do. I'm glad I look forward to a couple more decades to save towards a time when I can do service, slow down the work pace and enjoy an even greater quality of life in my 60s. So instead of griping about what I have less of, I'm ...

From time to time, take a look at your work habits. Look at the day: is there a time of day that's most challenging? For me there's that blood sugar drop at 3pm: it seems the solution is a Snickers Bar, or Green and Black's. As I look closer, it's the time of day when I hit the wall. I realize around 3pm that what I set out to do and what's going to happen today is vastly different. Projects are behind schedule, chocolate is the answer. That's as crazy as the idea that throwing more time and energy at the projects, even as simple a project as decluttering my desk and files, will solve the challenge. The answer I'm learning is more collaborative work with the team. And that's going to kick my ass to work on: yet there it is. Look at the week--are there more challenging times of the week than others? I've solved my Monday woe that really started on Sunday. It used to be that I lived for Fridays and chastised Mondays. The trick to even out the ...