Becoming a Gay Adult

One of the greatest ways to welcome more abundance in your life is to give thanks. Just that simple act helps you to realize you ALREADY have more than you sometimes think you have. The air we breathe, the ability to walk, to ride a bike, to be with loved ones, to sleep soundly--these are luxuries some in Cairo, Bangladesh, inner city New York, have so little of that they cry themselves to bed, if they can find one. We must express our gratitude. These holiday times may seem sparse compared to others in our past, and yet many of us have more than we really need. So we can take some time too to give to others. A hug, a smile, a kind word as we bustle through these shorter, cold days in the northeast can bestow abundance on others. Remember your mentors, and those who supported you through the year. Send them a text, an email, a card. Let them know you appreciate them. And take time for yourself in the quiet to write down what has made your life rich this year. Then notice how yo...

One of the most important things in life is family. It is the foundation of a powerful career. Period. So I prescribe that you spend some quality time with your family during the Bermuda Triangle of Thanksgiving Dec 25 time and New Year's. It seems to me that several cultures have major holidays during this Northern spell of shorter and colder days. It's a time for reflection on the year past, an evaluation of the past harvest --- a taking inventory and conversation with key stakeholders about our performance. The most important performance evaluation is "who am I in the world and what was my impact on others?" "Am I going in the direction aligned with the very best of me and am I interacting in a way with others that brings out the very best in them?" Then, from that foundation, review the work objectives and accomplishments. And gauge what the way ahead is given what family needs. Without family, a career is build on a shaky foundation. Now, esp...

Mental clutter is the bain of a successful career. It's what distracts you from your primary purpose as you busily get things done. You suddenly look up and it's November 12th or something and you wonder where the year went and why as it's Thanksgiving, you're thinking of what to give thanks for. The design of a year's action plan ought to have enough buffer to allow life's random form to take place. And yet it should move forward in a way that serves your personal growth and development in ways that authentically align with your purpose on earth. What you feel connects you to truth is worth holding onto as a rudder for life. Evenso, after chats with Mother, I've also learned that values must be pliable enough to flex to new knowledge you gain as you travel. There's nothing more foolhardy than holding on to old beliefs that no longer serve you. I think it's suicidal. That means, that you do the work of self introspection. That delicate work of jo...