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Amazing Life

Took a little time to reflect on my life this morning and the goals I've set.  And I have to say I'm on target:  I have a lot of the stuff I want of life and am tracking in most areas (except financially and maybe career) towards my goals for myself.

I have a question for myself though, "are my life goals mine?"  Or are they old parental expectations, or confusing societal expectations of what my life is supposed to be?  Am I forcing my life to fit some external mold?  Mold: what an interesting word: something you clean away or a structure in which you put something pliable that can take any shape at all.  Seems apt here: is my life-shaping process one that suits my unique talents, gifts, desires, and how I can be truly useful in the world?

I'm going to the movies. Animation. Funny, lots of amazing actors are doing these films now. And, ironically their "cheesy" often wholly ridiculously optimistic "upbeat" take on life and far-fetched escapes from dire danger to easy perfect "story-book" endings betray something really important.  Do we dare dream as adults?  Or have we become jaded by our "adult" experience to expect less from life and narrow our life experience?

So today's a day of expansive thinking and to let myself be inspired by the day's recreation.  What might my life be, beyond the narrow boundaries I often set?  What goals have I set that are no longer meaningful to me?  Have I over-set goals?  Can I lower my bar and enjoy my life more?  Do I really need $100K per year?  An eventual director title?

Do I?

Live well in the question. 

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