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Six Impossible Things Before Breakfast

Alice in Wonderland was wonderful.  What a great story!  Sometimes the people around us think we should be and should do certain things.  And we need to listen to that inner voice that calls us to do what we're meant to do.  Listen.  Sometimes our defiance of what we're expected to do is just that: pure unhelpful and chaos creating self-sabotaging defiance.  And we make note when we do that and try to shift to a more collaborative and negotiating stance.  It's good to debrief the events of our lives with trusted others.  Sometimes though, it's through the chaos that the next right thing happens for all involved.

Life is a mystery that way, and best understood backwards.  I'm still on the fence about my own escape November 4th "down the rabbit hole," however, much good HAS come out of my own adventure in wonderland.  For one, I'm happy, blissfully, irrevocably happy.  And I'm a really good career coach.  I know that, and it's all my experiences that give me the foundation to be as good as I am today.

So, here are my SIX IMPOSSIBLE THINGS BEFORE BREAKFAST.  Alice inspired me:

1.  To deeply truly believe that I am amazing in helping others manage their current careers and if necessary help them find new work
2.  To open up my deepest fears, dreams and deepest thinking to a trusted mentor
3.  Wake on time for an 8:30am Saturday phone call when I was exhausted from the work of this week
4.  To provide core support to someone who I think is twice as successful as me, to whom I would normally think I have nothing to offer
5.  To calm my dread and concern that I'll end up eating out of a garbage can and begging on the subway
6.  Allow and embrace my blissful happiness this morning: being fully alive and excited for the day

So now, breakfast.

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