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Bringing Best Self to Work

Ah, support.  I'm getting it in spades.

Here's how you can get some too.

1.  Identify mentors.  These are people who you want to be or who have something you aspire to have: qualities or titles, values or things.  Run your plan by them for big picture perspective.

2.  Pick your fave five.  Especially if you're starting a new gig or planning a change, the close friends you have can all you on your bs and keep you from making crazy moves.  Run any big ideas or change by them BEFORE you activate your grand exit from your current gig(s).  Friends are good to run your petty concerns and fears by.  [Your partner should be kept in the loop; however never your main lean-on person: it's just too close to home.]

3.  Get a buddy at work.  This is your colleague, who might be struggling just as you are: asking the same questions, succeeding and able to clearly see, validate and understand exactly what you mean when you use work acronyms and codes and the very people you talk about.  Their very real-time feedback can literally stop you from walking into someone's office and torching your career.  Save the really nasty revelations though for your fave five (you can go childish with them) and occasionally (with some maturity) your mentors.

You'll get the hang of it.  Propiety may demand that there's confidentiality in the ways you communicate with your support systems.

Follow those rules as the authentically faithful aim to follow religous practices.  Seriously.  Yet try your best to authentically shake off anything that troubles you or gets stuck in your paw.  It's better than acting out or acting in alone with chocolate/cookies late at night.  Respect the chocolate (as my mentor says); just avoid being dominated by it.  I'm having chocolate outrage (the name of the cake); albeit a tiny slice.

The goal is tomorrow, we want to bring our best selves to work.

Work Well; Hunt Better.

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