Becoming a Gay Adult

We've all had our moments defying reason: and the New Yorkers (including me) who braved going to work are intrepid. There's good and crazy about that. Hardly will comment on that balance. However, I have to say there was some glee in jumping around in blizzard snowdrifts up to my calves, and seeing the fortitude in the faces of those who brave wild snow falls. It's defying gravity. Had a good workout, then hit the deck early at work to do a one-two punch at the things that needed doing. I was spent after the trek home, for some nosh and reflection, and possibly some entertainment while listening to the wind blow snow up the walls outside and shape ice designs in swirling landscapes of white. You have to give Nature her due: she is mighty. Live Well in Balance with Nature.

Most times, people avoid kids on flights. For some reason I sat beside this tyke on the plane, his mom had another younger one who needed lots of attention and somehow I became Dad for a plane trip. And, I had the most amazing time. Seeing the world through the eyes of a child, makes the world intensely magical. He was so excited about everything. When I read him the story books about animals and letters, he was so happy and alive. Letters...who gets excited about the letters of the alphabet, or the button that turns on the reading light on the plane? Kids do. And I noticed in my "adult mode" that I take almost everything for granted. So for an hour I was five again with this kid I'd never met before and we had a blast. I am home and all the lights, and things that click seem more magical. His enthusiasm and passion for life are with me now. I think work will be more fun on Monday, than it would have been had I never met this kid. So here's to kids: may their

The angels said to the shepherds, "be of courage. Tonight is born a King." There's something in there about the journey from boy to man in the story. There's something about the journey from dark to light--shortest day of the year to summer. As we set goals at work in our performance reviews, as we revisit our families of origin... As we build our families of choice, this is a time of year for reflection. What went well, what would I change? It is time to call upon support--the darker the days, the more help we need and DESERVE. Call dear friends. Acknowledge those who have been of greatest support this year. The gift of saying, "thank you" thoughtfully is worth diamonds and other expensive things we feel obliged to purchase and wrap and send. Focus most on the thought behind the giving, rather than the thing, especially if to do so stretches an already tight spending plan. Focus on the spirit behind the gratitude. People will feel that more: it'

I just met a professional organizer. What struck me most about her is her PASSION for what she does. If you can find a thing to do in life that wakes you up when you talk about it: that's when you know you're doing the right thing in building your career. I've rarely seen that in others. Most people seem to satisfice around their careers. So, probably my first 'endorsement' goes to Dara Finkel at http://www.spacialharmony.com/ . Check out the site (an organizational beauty in of itself), and reach out if you're challenged with ineffective home or office spaces. Just looking at the before and after shots on her site encourages me to tackle end of year through 2011, reducing my clutter-enabled ineffectiveness. Yet one more step towards growing up and being the man I want to be in the world. Go Dara!