Becoming a Gay Adult

What a powerful word! There are many times in a career when you fear it's all over. That there's no coming back from that end--that crossing the line from life to all bets are off. This season reminds us through these major holidays in cultures and religions that endure, and through the powerful rite of spring, when buds appear from trees that have long appeared through winter, dead, that rebirth is possible. So take the time to look at what has continued to work in spite of the odds at work. Use that as your strength--your platform on which to rebuild momentum towards goals you've set or that have been set for you this year. Look from that strength at the things that are failing you. What habits, what attitudes, what language no longer serves you in the current situation? Maybe the environment has changed? Maybe you've changed? Ask for support from your trusted mentors and use their guidance well. It could help you at a critical moment in your career. Hopefully

There is a reason holidays persist. It's a time to gather the tribes. There are important stories to tell. One of those stories is your own. We can only tell our stories, truly reveal ourselves, with safe ones. So identify them again. Our safe ones change over time, a past friend or lover may no longer be included in your tribal gathering. So re-evaluate. Even family members can become toxic over time, so think through, rather than fall back on your traditional list of folks. How have you felt in their presence over the last few months? Have you noticed a retraction of their support? Have you been in touch at all over the last few months? Try to clear the air of course, and never assume you know what's going on from their end of the friendship, family connection or mentorship, but ask the questions if you sense something has changed. We all deserve clarity in our close relationships. Mentorships are interesting relationships. Hang in them long enough and reverse mentoring i