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Rewriting the Story

If you've gotten bored with the stories you tell at the "water cooler..." Wait, does anyone actually do this? Do companies HAVE water coolers? If you get bored with what you're Facebooking, tweeting and blogging...then this is for you.

I got to the point where I was bored with my own stories. And so I decided to tell new ones. I looked at the recurring thoughts and what I actually said, and how those thoughts and words led to actions. I was getting in my own way.

So I redrafted the thoughts as they came up, and shifted the words around and noticed new actions. It's spiritual jijitsu. Taking the energy that comes up and redirecting it towards something positive. It's usually the direction you WANT to go in. I notice, for example, that the YELLING I do at myself was really because I wanted to inspire myself to take more action in a certain direction. I dropped the yelling part, and kept the motivational part.

It works. Try it.

And when I get stuck there, I try listing the things that ARE going well right now. And use that as the platform to look at anything I want to shift or change. For example, "you did make 5 calls already today. How about a 10 minute break and then we come back and do 5 more."

Instead of any beating yourself up today, try embracing your dreams, what you want to do and be. Contract with the world for the rest of the day as if who you really want to be is who you are now. Start a new 24 hours over right now, and rewrite the story to inspire those around you.

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