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Microinequities and Rising Above

So on a day when I could be raising awareness that there is still no cure for HIV, and yet there's hope it could be preventable if we practice safe behavior, I've got a microinequity stuck in my craw. Doing my NYC duty helping some tourist ladies take that picture in front of some ginormous cut down tree plopped in the perfect location for such things--after she interrupted my confab with Siri sharing a win with a mentor--and what does she say? 'Are you going to run away with my iPhone?' And can you imagine? I chalked it up to crazy, forgave her, said not a word, took the picture, smiled and just shook my head as I walked away. Happy Holidays, lady. Though I know it was a teachable moment, I really wanted to get on with my day.
 
It's hardly my job to educate everyone else. I have enough on my plate getting the next aha into my own psyche than to be disarmed everytime someone else's nuttiness floods my psyche. So this is one of the moments I chose to shake on FaceBook and quickly laugh about so I can ponder more weighty things. In fact, I believe it's my overreaction to these types of events throughout 2012, and other people's declared states of emergency (ugh Sandy), that diverted me from attaining many things I set out to do this year.
 
Note to self--get a little more focus going on for 2013 without being selfish--just more self-concerned.
 
I took a professional certification exam today. I think that was a successful move after months of studying and certainly a key goal for 2012. Honestly, many of the other actions I set out to take January 2012 are undone due to that save the world syndrome. And that's frustrating. Plus, life has a way of throwing curveballs--personal, work, family, and the path you tread can be different than the journey you set out to walk. And I followed a couple shiny objects (triathlon) into the ocean. Sigh.
 
And so it is. Take time to recalibrate and set a course for 2013. Reflect on what did work out for 2012. And gird your own self esteem, share honestly with stakeholders, evaluate, collaborate on the new goal list and forge ahead.
 
No use crying over spilt opportunities and dreams--luckily, we're here now. Live well. Work well.

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