Grown Up Decisions

Competing priorities: show up for work AND do what I need to do to take care of my health on a daily basis AND show up for family and friends.

It feels almost impossible to manage all the competing priorities. This is the joy of being grown up, which we all wanted to do when we were kids. We wanted the freedom of choice. In fact, most adults pride autonomy as crucial to their sense of being truly alive.

The tough part is the daily choosing. Today, I took time in quiet meditation to ask myself how to manage today's priorities. A nice breakfast and I'm on my way. I also want to allow today to be itself, which may include adventures I had no idea I would have.

Stay tuned.

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