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Negotiation Skills

I admit:  I have poor negotiation skills.

Over the next couple of days, I'm going to have to ask for what I want and it's very challenging.  I have to be honest because that's the basis of a true relationship.

I feel good that I've left behind the ideas that "the man" is out to get me.  That is false.  It's a good story; just a lie.  The truth is, I sign up for stuff, and then get upset that it's different than I want it to be.

Negotiation means I'm honest and up front about my needs, desires and dreams.  I give the other person (or organization) a chance to state their boundaries and hopes for our relationship.  And then we both think about how we can meet each other in a place where we're both honored, and feel we can work together.  There is a resulting sense of fairplay.  That's what I'm aiming for today in my conversations.

1. Sharing honestly.
2. Asking probing questions to understand the other party.
3. Coming to a mutual plan of action.
4. Sitting after the conversation and seeing if it feels good to go forward.

That means today's going to be one of my most challenging days.  And I'm up for it!  I'm excited to stretch into new behavior that honors myself, and treats others with respect, care and understanding.  We work together.

Happy Hunting.  And great work day to all.

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