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It's nice to be home with Mom, Dad, Brother and his Girlfriend.  What's that?  A Girlfriend-in-law?  Hmmm...and are my brother's friends my friends-in-law.  Odd, the language.

So with the nuclear family, I get to see how I respond.  And one thing always strikes me:  my voice gets smaller and I have to learn to speak clearly and access my lower register better.  Breathe, know that I'm ok.  Afterall, I'm 40, and no longer 12 or 5 or any of those other ages.

Being grown up and having older parents is a new phase of development. We're having conversations about where they will settle down for the long haul.  We're talking about possessions and what those mean, where they will go when my parents pass away, and what they will divest now.

It's almost as if I'm now a parent to the very people who were parents to me.  The switch works my brain.

At the same time, I want to enjoy them, and my brother: our lifelong friendship. 

It is in the exploration of these relationships that shaped the very person I am, created the very template of me, that I learn what core concerns I have in all other relationships.

Explore family.

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