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Jealousy is a Map

A guy I know just got profiled in the New York Times for his entrepreneurial work.

A guy I know had his wedding in Central Park with swans.

A woman I know has been travelling across the country singing her songs.

My supervisors have been just a year or two older, once even YOUNGER, and had titles often 3-4 levels above mine and made sometimes ten times what I made.

And I'm jealous.

Jealousy is a map.  It points us to our true north, telling us what we want in our lives and highlights the gap between where we are now and where we want to be.  Investigate what the jealousy is. 

For me: do I want to have an article written about my work?  Do I want a greater income level so that I can celebrate the events in my life abundantly?  Do I want a deep committed relationship with an amazing man and a public celebration?  Do I want to travel and earn income from my creations?

What can I do today to move in that direction, from where I am now?  Maybe I can even outline some successes I already have that serve as a platform for the life I want in the future?  In fact, someone IS thinking about writing an article about my work.  I do have a clear vision about what I want to earn and I AM taking actions.  I dated towards a committed relationship and am open to more wonderful dates that lead to one relationship we'll both enjoy and treasure for many years.

So I can just celebrate when the good things happen for others.  And I can continue to take action.  There.  Back to work.

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