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When you can no longer bear the pain

When you can no longer bear the pain, bare your teeth.

Wince: yeah, predatory animals will probably notice and turn you into appetizer, however, it gives your body the visceral response that generates the natural defenses.

Grrr: it's than lion-baring show of powerful biting tools that let's others know you have the chops to turn yumminess into nutrition. Wink.

Smile: sometimes it's a forced smile.  Sometimes it's a zen-like smile of acceptance and sometimes it's shadowed with a Cheshire-whimsy. 

My doctor kept saying through my Odyssey-like journey over the past few days from "horrible breathing noises" to something he felt safe sending me home with, that it was my smile that was his ultimate measure of my health.  The untrained eye knows your true warm loving irrepressible smile and that it comes from a deep pleasure source.

Socially, we're trained to at least respect the forced smile.  We may be sure of, and respond subtly to an ANGRY forced smile, however we have social behavior around smiles.

So use your teeth when in pain, and as soon as you can, get a warm shower and cry like a baby.  It's good to be home.

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