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Stay in the Mix

They say if you hang out in the barbershop long enough, you'll get a haircut.  And they say you're known by the company you keep.  It takes deliberate thought and follow up action to stay in the mix you want.

Are you hanging with the people who have the conversations you want to have?  Are the people around you seekers for the life you want to have, positively and actively working towards it?  If yes, terrific.  Keep going.  If your evaluation finds the people you hang with in want, then it's time to mix it up.  Be the one that brings out the positive side.  And if that fails to Pied Piper-like get your gang talking different, start attracting a new tribe.

Start noticing if the people you hold closest support your dreams and vision for yourself.  Ask them to do that if you forgot to ask.  And see where they land.  You deserve to be surrounded by support, especially outside the office.  Think about associations related to your industry, groups that may have already formed on Meetup.  Find your tribe.  Stay in the mix.

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